“Thinking and worrying is counterproductive for oxycontin release and therefore birth.” -unknown
Photo Credits belong to the wonderful Dori form Dori Marie Photography
This quote sat on my bedside table for my entire pregnancy. I’m an anxious over thinker, especially when I have a big life change happening. And childbirth is a big life change! My first childbirth experience did not work out the way I had expected and left me with trauma that I knew I needed to address and work through before I could have another baby. So, for my second pregnancy I spent a lot of time working through my fears and educating myself on childbirth. Being a birth doula and childbirth educator really helped me learn what birth is really all about. Supporting and standing next to birthing women and educating families about childbirth gave me the confidence that I could have the birth experience I desired.
The day before I went into labour my dog wouldn’t leave my side, she intuitively knew my body was preparing itself for my baby to come. I was thankful for the little warning. 2am my contractions gradually started every 10 minutes until about 6am where they stopped. I assumed I’d just been having false labour so I went back to bed and slept for an hour where then my contractions started again. I was so thankful my baby gave me a rest before the marathon. The plan was to have a home birth, I loved the idea of not having to transfer to the hospital and deal with the stress of a car ride and a new environment with people I didn’t know. That really gave me a peace that helped me get through my labour. By 11am my midwife and doula were with me as I labored in my bathtub. I remember saying to my doula “I feel great! I feel in control of what my body is doing, this is awesome!”
After a while I knew my body was transitioning and I needed to get out of my bathtub. I walked around for a bit and had the midwife check me; 6cm dilated, I was so close and still felt so in control. I then moved into the birth pool where I continued to labour and my water broke. I started to progress faster and eventually started to feel the pushing urge. Some time had passed, and I started to feel discouraged, fears of my last birth started to creep into my head telling me I couldn’t pull this off. My midwife eventually suggested having me get out of the birth pool and onto my bed, she checked me again and offered some guidance on how to push correctly. The change of scenery and encouragement from my birth team gave me the extra confidence I needed to finish this. With my husband holding my hand and my dog snoring next to us our son was born just after 4pm.
I faced my fears and allowed my body to do it’s work, and I was rewarded with a lovely chubby little boy.
Brenna- Birth Doula & Prenatal Instructor
Yellow Bird Birth Doula
“When we talk about the birth process, dads discover what it means to really be there for their partner. You don’t need to know every detail about what happens in labor or get a degree in obstetrics. Being present means you’re there to fully share the birth experience with your partner. In concrete terms it means you talk to her, comfort her, reassure her, stay beside her throughout labor (if that’s what she wants), and respond to her requests.” –Babycenter.com
We LOVE this! Why should partners/dad’s be left out with everything from the birthing process? When honestly, they are one of the most important people on the team and should feel confident on their stance in the room! This is exactly why we cover so much on how partners play a key role in the birth you both envisioned together. In our prenatal classes we practice hands on techniques, we chat about tips and specific ways that dad’s can comfort, support and love on their birthing women. It’s a beautiful thing to see this partnership working together to welcome their baby into the world.
What things did your partner do to help you feel connected and confident during your birth?
Prenatal classes in Abbotsford and Chilliwack are offered every month by our expert team of instructors! We have the skills, knowledge and humor to make you feel ready for birth!
Are You Prepared?
We LOVE providing Abbotsford & Chilliwack with our long running Prenatal Intensive Classes! For years we have taught hundreds of couples the must know and basics of birth. It’s important to us that expecting couples feel prepared, have their questions answered and get some hands on techniques to walk into their birth feeling confident and in control. That’s you! You could feel confident and in control, knowing how to ask the right questions to make all your decisions (for all kinds of birth) that are right for your family.
We know people don’t have a lot of time these days which is exactly why we created a program covering all the basics in just 3 hours for an affordable price to be able to welcome everyone. Our instructors are not only trained but have hands on experience in birth and postpartum as doulas and personal experience with their own pregnancies. That’s the bonus! We share stories, laugh together and help you to feel supported and prepared.
We’d love to have you join us for one of our upcoming classes.
She is there. Someone to be the “woman to woman” connection that is so primal and instinctive. She reminds you that your body is strong and was made for this and that your baby is safe and ready. She enhances your partner’s ability to be fully present for you and help him alongside this beautiful marathon that is birth.
She knows you through the hours of prenatal sessions together and knows your desires for birth. She supports your choices and is there to gently remind you what your options are.
She helps you breath and focus, to go inward and let the tightening’s flow as you ride them out. She keeps the lights low and the space in the room calm so you can get that good oxytocin flowing.
She reminds you to follow your heart, gut and intuition.
She suggests movements and positions to help your baby move further down, to help you rest and to connect with your partner. She massages your feet, puts pressure on your back and grabs a cool cloth for your forehead. She brings you back during transition when you want to close your eyes and are done.
A doula is a woman with experience and knowledge in birth. She comes along on this journey as a guide and an encouragement.
She is there.
-Amanda & Jaclyn
Fraser Valley’s Premier Doula Group providing everything you need for your BEST birth and postpartum!