Newly pregnant, I went straight to the local book store and bought an armload of pregnancy and newborn books. I would read them during my lunch breaks at work, at night before bed and any chance I got to sit down and rest. I obsessed with knowing the details since I was nervous about how my body would grow and how at some point I needed to get this baby out of me!
Somehow I thought knowing more facts would take away the anxiety.
My doctor wasn’t much help, bless his heart, he hadn’t personally experience birth and couldn’t relate on an emotional level. I needed someone to mellow me out and bring me to a place where I could start imagining what I wanted my pregnancy and birth to look and feel like.
You can find advice all over, a group of moms getting together and trying to top each others terrifying births (at least this was my experience) or being told I should “just get the drugs” from online forums, or the best of all.. random people in the grocery store giving me information on how I shouldn’t have a home birth/use a midwife.
Then I found it. A women who had older children, who was calm, wise and very encouraging. She had been there, through it all. She gave me non judgmental advice on enjoying my experience. Not putting all the focus on the birth but the postpartum period as well. Making sure I was keeping my marriage strong and involving my husband throughout all the months. She had power of experience and approached me as a mentor, not someone out to frighten me or give me false expectations.
I appreciate all she did and I want to encourage you to find the same! Someone you can trust and who cares for you. I’ve had many mentors during different phases in my life and I believe it is how us women are meant to pass on knowledge and live in a loving community together.
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