“When we talk about the birth process, dads discover what it means to really be there for their partner. You don’t need to know every detail about what happens in labor or get a degree in obstetrics. Being present means you’re there to fully share the birth experience with your partner. In concrete terms it means you talk to her, comfort her, reassure her, stay beside her throughout labor (if that’s what she wants), and respond to her requests.” –Babycenter.com
We LOVE this! Why should partners/dad’s be left out with everything from the birthing process? When honestly, they are one of the most important people on the team and should feel confident on their stance in the room! This is exactly why we cover so much on how partners play a key role in the birth you both envisioned together. In our prenatal classes we practice hands on techniques, we chat about tips and specific ways that dad’s can comfort, support and love on their birthing women. It’s a beautiful thing to see this partnership working together to welcome their baby into the world.
What things did your partner do to help you feel connected and confident during your birth?
Prenatal classes in Abbotsford and Chilliwack are offered every month by our expert team of instructors! We have the skills, knowledge and humor to make you feel ready for birth!
Birth Plan, Birth Preference, or Birth Map, whatever you choose to call it, writing down your ideal birth is a great way to communicate with your birth team. Before I elaborate, it’s important to know that birth plans should have flexibility and not all births go according to plan.
Birth plans are great opportunity for you and your partner to sit down and discuss what your birth wishes are, and what you want to avoid; it encourages you to be educated and responsible for your care (also known as informed consent). It encourages you to make clear goals and allow changes to be made if needed (not wanting to use any pain management vs receiving an epidural because your exhausted for being in labour for a while and need a few hours of sleep). If you and your birth team know what your preferences are in different scenarios, then everyone is on the same page and help you best articulate your desires accordingly. Don’t shy away from having a few copies with you at your birthing location, they can easily be lost or misplaced, and review with each of your support team (doula, partner, mom, sister… whoever is going to be out your birth).
Some things you may want to include in your birth plan:
- What kind of environment do you want to birth in (lights on or off, music playing or quiet, home or hospital, etc)?
- Do you plan to eat or drink during labour?
- Do you want staff to offer you pain meds?
- Who do you want present at the birth?
- What positions do you want to labour in?
- Do you want to stay in bed or do you want to move freely?
- Do want your care provider to break your water or do you want it to break on its own?
- In case of needing a c-section, do you have any special requests?
- Actively coached while pushing or do you want to follow your body’s direction?
- Do you want a mirror to be used when baby is crowning to connect with baby?
- Can forceps or vacuum be used to during delivery?
- Do you have any religious or cultural practices you want to everyone to be aware of?
- Cut the cord right away or delay cord clamping?
- Do you want baby to have skin to skin with you right away?
- Do you have any plans for your placenta?
And let’s be honest, the last thing you want is to be bombarded with questions and having to make decisions when you are in active labour and exhausted, so if there are others who can answer questions on your behalf the more time and effort you can put on focusing to bringing your bundle of joy earth side.
Side note, we cover ALL of these topics in our Prenatal Intensive Classes and we’d LOVE for you and your partner/support person to join us! Click HERE for more info.
Heidi, Client Care Specialist , Yellow Bird Birth Inc.
Are You Prepared?
We LOVE providing Abbotsford & Chilliwack with our long running Prenatal Intensive Classes! For years we have taught hundreds of couples the must know and basics of birth. It’s important to us that expecting couples feel prepared, have their questions answered and get some hands on techniques to walk into their birth feeling confident and in control. That’s you! You could feel confident and in control, knowing how to ask the right questions to make all your decisions (for all kinds of birth) that are right for your family.
We know people don’t have a lot of time these days which is exactly why we created a program covering all the basics in just 3 hours for an affordable price to be able to welcome everyone. Our instructors are not only trained but have hands on experience in birth and postpartum as doulas and personal experience with their own pregnancies. That’s the bonus! We share stories, laugh together and help you to feel supported and prepared.
We’d love to have you join us for one of our upcoming classes.
A wise woman once said “Squat 300 times a day, you’re going to give birth quickly”. While that may not always be possible in our busy lives, Ina May Gaskin sure knew what she was talking about when she states that physical activity can influence the birth process.
There are two main things that can drastically change the outcome of your birth, health and social support. By keeping yourself active in all stages of pregnancy, you can boost your mood, improve sleep, and reduce pregnancy aches and pains. Exercising can help to prevent and possibly treat gestational diabetes and prepares you for childbirth by keeping your muscles strong and building endurance, and making it much easier to get back in shape postpartum.
It’s recommended that during pregnancy, at least 30 minutes a day of exercise is ideal.
Exercises During Pregnancy
Walking: Easy to do almost anywhere and keeps you fit without straining your knees and ankles.
Swimming: Safe and effective, swimming is ideal because it exercises both large muscle groups (arms and legs), provides cardiovascular benefits, and allows expectant women to feel weightless despite the extra pounds of pregnancy.
Dancing: You can get your heart pumping by dancing to your favorite tunes in the comfort of your own living room.
Yoga: Yoga can help maintain muscle tone and keep you flexible with little, if any, impact on your joints.
Stretching: Stretching is wonderful for keeping your body limber and relaxed and preventing muscle strain.
Weight training: Using slow and controlled movements with lighter weights and more repetitions will keep you toned and strengthen your muscles during pregnancy. If weight training is part of your regular exercise routine, it is safe to continue (with care provider approval).
*Always discuss physical activities with your care provider to make sure it is safe for you and your baby. Stop if you are feeling dizzy, overheating, vaginal bleeding occurs, blurred vision, fluid leaking or you feel any chest pain. Remember that you have relaxing hormones which will loosen your joints, making it easier to roll your ankle, injure your knee or move your hips out of balance.*